I used to feel silly about the idea of positive affirmations or self-talk. I was constantly berating myself in my own head, but couldn’t find any sincerity when it came to saying nice things to myself. I thought I might as well forget about trying to do so. It wouldn’t matter if I couldn’t make myself believe the things I was saying, right? Well I found out I was wrong about that. If you can come up with some kind words for yourself, practice saying them. Even if you don’t mean it at first, eventually, with enough repetition, you will. It gets easier with time.
I’m still working on it. Some phrases are easier than others. Sometimes it helps if I begin by saying something like, “everyone deserves happiness” before adding “I deserve happiness.” While the second phrase is harder for me to believe, it only follows logically from the first which I do wholeheartedly believe. It can also be helpful to imagine you are speaking to a dear friend. If you are someone like me who struggles with affirmations here are a few you might try:
- I am strong
- I deserve peace
- I deserve happiness
- I deserve love
- I am loved
- I am a beautiful, unique soul
- I deserve to be treated with kindness and respect
- I deserve to be shown empathy and compassion
- I am resilient
- I am grateful
- I am capable
- I am worthy
I hope that you will give at least a few of these a try. Even if you don’t genuinely feel it’s true at first. I promise it will still help. If you frequently notice negative self-talk, try to follow it with a different, positive statement. It is also especially helpful if you can practice saying affirmations like these out loud or even say them to your reflection in a mirror. Words have power. Let’s not waste them by using them to tear ourselves down. Let’s build ourselves up instead.