In the past, I have been an angry and easily irritated individual. So many little things throughout my day would make my blood boil and send my mind into a reeling spiral of complaints and criticisms. A slow driver in front of me on the road, seeing someone litter, a noisy neighbor. All of these things would leave me furious. Recently, however, I have realized the impracticality of such a mindset. Feeling this anger and letting my inner monologue begin justifying this anger and obsessing over the rudeness, carelessness, or illogical behavior of others did not serve to change any of these things.
These annoyances were every day occurrences, unavoidable, and largely things that I could never hope to eliminate from my world. Yet, they caused me to become filled with such frustration. The anger they caused took up so much time and mental energy. Recently, however, I have begun to overcome these flares of fury.
I realized that my passionate disapproval of these things was not going to lead to any kind of change. The only thing that I was doing was harming myself. I was increasing my risk for heart attack in later life and I was also destroying so many potential moments of peace and happiness that I could have been enjoying. Now when I feel my anger beginning to bubble up to the forefront of my consciousness, I remind myself that this anger serves no purpose. I remember that it is easy to focus on things that bother you or things that didn’t go the way you wanted them to. But there are plenty of wonderful joyous aspects of my day that slip under my awareness.
Most of us don’t allow ourselves to revel in the joy of waking up to birdcalls in the morning, or the satisfaction of getting the last package of your favorite snack at the supermarket. These things are just as common, but our minds seem to overlook them more often than the small unpleasantries. This creates strong neurological connections in our brain over time, forever intensifying and reinforcing this focus on the negative. Instead, we can all chose to let this anger go. We can chose to pay more attention to the small joys in our lives instead. The more you consciously chose to let go of your anger and increase your attention on pleasant things, the easier it gets as the wiring of your brain begins to alter. You will become a more calm and positive person. Allow your life to be full of peace rather than anger.
Let it go, my loves. ❤
You often hear people discuss the “challenges” of becoming vegan such as limiting yourself, constantly having to read ingredients, not being able to eat at certain restaurants, expenses, etc. However, no one ever mentioned to me the most difficult part of veganism: other people. The constant battle that you face everyday is having to justify yourself to ignorant, inconsiderate, and often down-right rude people.
Before becoming vegan, I was, of course, exposed to the classic holier-than-thou vegan stereotype. I never thought much of it, but after becoming vegan myself, it is infuriating. As a vegan, you are questioned and criticized at every turn (at least if you are from an area like I am.) But if you even attempt to defend yourself, then you are just some “crazy” tree-hugger that thinks you are better than everyone else.
You are expected to have endless references from which you acquired your knowledge, yet no one else seems to need any kind of justification for their false statements about meat and dairy and protein and whatnot. I would have hoped that by this point in history that people would know that just because something is widely believed, does not make it true. I just cannot for the life of me understand what these vegan critics want from us.
Vegans are the victims of endless jokes and ribbing that we are supposed to just brush off. Well, I am fed up with it. This is not just some silly game to make ourselves feel important. Why would so many people make such a drastic change from the ordinary just to feel superior? We are clearly standing up for the things we believe. I am sorry that that seems to threaten so many people out there. If you don’t want to lend a hand in saving our environment, your own body, and millions of innocent lives, then that is your problem, but don’t you dare try to make me feel silly for doing so. Even if the world is too far gone to save, I will not be a part of its destruction and it sickens me that so many people would rather do that than open their minds to a new way of living and admit that we as a species have been selfish and careless.
Time to stand up for our Mother Earth, my loves. ❤
Hello dears! Today was my first day back at college for the fall semester. So, as I usually seem to do, I set some new goals for myself this year in West Liberty. I want to make new friends. This may seem like something that wouldn’t need to be a goal, but as I have stated in one of my previous posts, until recently I suffered from a lot of social anxiety. Getting to know people was a terrifyingly and taxing affair.
However, I have been taking the anti-anxiety medication Paxil for almost a year now and am feeling very differently about things. I had been noticing myself getting bored with my life for the past few years, but only after quieting my anxieties have I been able to figure out why that is. I miss knowing people. All of this time I have been getting lost inside my own head. I forgot the joy of the moments like the one pictured above. This is a photo my closest friend for over twelve years took the other night of us talking. This photo really represents to me all of the wonderful and heartfelt conversations that we have had in those twelve years.
I feel the warmth and significance of those encounters and the way we have helped and watched each other grow. I realize now that these moments with other people are one of the most precious things in this life. To discuss abstract concepts and ideologies and really consider and discover the way another person sees the world is a magnificent thing.
Now that I am no longer so nervous around people, I would really like to work on forming more close relationships and seeing the world from some new perspectives. I am tired of living inside my own head and I am curios. I am curious to see if there are any other minds out there as beautiful as my dear friend Valarie’s.
So let’s all try to be a little more open to new people and new encounters this year. Who knows who you will meet?
Stay peaceful, friends. ❤